1st CNY spent with hubby

I think mum-in-law is offended.

30th night, we had steamboat with her god-daughter. Everybody did a lot walking from the kitchen and back to dining hall with water dripping from hands and food. As usual, i just couldn't stand it, so wiped whole kitchen & mopped whole place clean.

1st day of CNY, we all went over to his grandma's place. Passed angpow to his uncle & grandma then off we all went over to my mum's side for visiting. BY the time we reached home, headache came back the moment i stepped into the warm & stuffy living room. Father-in-law (FIL) as usual will be occupying one of the sofa. Told mum-in-law (MIL) that parents will be dropping over and she cannot stop insisting that she will heat up overnight dishes and serve them. I told her repeatedly, no they're not going to stay for dinner. Yet she dun seem to get the idea and kept coaxing me to agree with her to heat up all the leftover dishes from 29th & 30th. @#$@#$. I was so pissed of at that time & at the same time she had to ask me where i kept the tissue boxes!!! Couldn't stand it anymore...i slammed the drawers in the kitchen (while they were all outside in the living room) and told them i dunno and rushed up to my room. Told hubby about MIL forcing parents to eat leftover dishes. He calmed me down and said that he would take care of everything. Felt better after that. Changed and went down to serve all of them with tidbits & drinks. MIL just couldn't stop ordering me to bring this bring that out for parents. Of cos i controlled my temper and at that time some more could afford to smile. After some time, MIL decided to cook everybody dinner. So off i went to kitchen to help out. Mum was there to chat with her too. So finally decided to cook only the crabs & meat & fresh veggies. I didn't touch any of the dishes cos too tired. Mopped and cleaned the whole places again. Even mopped the dining hall. After sent off parents, i went to bathe & finally got time to rest and watch tv. FIL just had to say this phrase "It's your dad's fault also for not taking care of ah kong until ah kong's condition became like that" Hua!!!!! He dun even know the exact story and why xiao ku had to take care of ah kong in the first place. I was so angry with FIL there and then. He didn't know how ah kong tried to hug mum and that's why dad had to send ah kong to stay with xiao ku until mum recovers. Okay, 1st of cny....smileeeeeeee

2nd day of CNY, MIL started her usual way of talking again. Go round the bush again about not wanting to go to see her side of the family. Still we all ended up in KK. I was enjoying myself there seriously. Cos takkan want to sit at home and watch astro all the time. Until we had to go home cos there's another reunion at mum's aprt. Headache started again on the way back. We dragged ourselves to mum's place and more food intake....fun also but tired. Got home around 12am & slept until 3am when the alarm went off. Set the alarm so that hubby gets to say good bye to bro-in-law mah. Cos hubby was surprised BIL had to go home so early this CNY, so tried to do him a favor by setting up the alarm. But unfortunately, BIL chg the time to 6am.
3rd day of CNY, luckily i woke up in time to wake hubby up. So difficult to wake him up. He was mumbling and asking so many questions....iskh! Didn't bother much, still dragged him off the bed. Managed to say good bye to BIL and went off to bed. Woke up at 11am and found FIL lying on the sofa again. He was debating whether to go visit his frens in PG or not. Oh yeah, before that, i went to kitchen to find MIL heating up meat & soup. All the leftover dishes was poured into a pot and made into "chai buay teng". I just cannot imagine how to eat from the pot. Imagine saliva from 10+ persons boiled into one pot...yucks!! That time, my fire started but of cos not showing it to anybody. During lunch, MIL told me they cooked for yesterday dinner. So after lunch, i wiped the stove again. She told me, she didn't cook on the other side of the stove, why have to wipe. I told her, nevermind lar, just wipe it clean. She was okay with it. After she left the kitchen....i started to wipe everywhere & stack up all the plates & pots. Cleaned the fridge and ice. I was angry at that time, i dunno why. So i threw the ice into the sink - 50% not on purpose cos the ice was slippery but i was happy with the loud sound. MIL rushed to the kitchen and asked me what was going on. Accident, that's what i told her. Went to PG and in-laws went off to visit friends on my bike. Went to buy some food for tea time. Mum lectured me on my bad temper again...bla bla bla. After in-laws came back from visiting, we rushed off to SP again. Jammed for like an hour plus. Had good dinner at MIL's sis's house. Hulamak...they forced me to sing in public!! I already said dun want and they some more forced me!!! Okay okay, i was in bad mood also so i just ignored them all. Reached home so late and i gave hubby a good "massage" and both of us slept until 12pm+ the next day.

4th day of CNY, so glad to stay at home with hubby without doing anything. Just eat and watch tv and relaxing. Too bad headache came back and i had to sleep to forget about the headache. In-laws came over again. Pestering me to see the doc. I know they're very nice to me but with the headache and pestering....i was so sian... i dun mean to be rude to them, but they always like to pester me to do things i already know how to do. I just dun like it. But since they're my in-laws and hubby's parents, and i love my hubby, my hubby loves them, so i'll learn to love them too. Maybe it's my temper again. i just dun like to be controlled.

I'm really sorry if i've offended in-laws or hubby in one way or another. I'm still learning how to live with other people's parents. With my own parents, i can still throw tantrum in front of them without the fear of getting cold treatment in return. I dun want to throw tantrum in front of in-laws cos i know the consequences. I want to respect them and make hubby proud of me. But i still have long way to do that.

cold and empty

It was yesterday night when he left me alone in the room. He had had enough tolerating my temper. I dunno, i couldn't control my temper since Monday. Small things pissed me off easily. Small things including the jokes he tells me, the way he talks, the way he dresses and worse, the way he commented on my fammily members as if his is the best. I tried to control my temper, but i guess i failed miserably. I'm tired of all this. CNY' approaching and yet we're always in war. Honestly, my anger could only lasted for a short while and when i'm angry i throw tantrum and expect everybody to do the things my way. This is common rite? Throw tantrum and be done with it in short while. Unlike him. He'll just ignore you for the REST of the day. I always suffer in silence when he's moody cos i'm ignored. He's tired, i'm tired. Isn't there a solution for this? I'm not asking him to give in to me all the time. I know i'm over fussy at times. Like what mum-in-laws always says....whenever one side is in bad mood, the other person must learn how to close one eyes. And we're only married for less than 2 months.

Lunch was good, a treat from aunt at I-Avenue. Today's task is to teach cousin how to board the company bus home from office. He'll be here for a good 6 months as vacation trainee. Another family member in Avago. Received a cake on aunt's behalf. My troublesome da jie refused to take us home with the cake, no choice, have to take the bus today, aunt's on halfday.

Met KK, the guy who stayed in relau. The guy who works in intel & had a room vacancy in his aprt. He knew i was familiar to him but he just couldn't recall me until i MSN him just now. Could it becos i looked round & clumsy last time? He did say i looked different now.

Someone is ignoring me today. I knew it must be due to the post i just posted below.

hateful day

Monday, 18 Dec - 12days more

Last weekend was pretty bad. I'm trying to remember the details but my head is not working today. Oh yeah, my guests list increased unexpectedly. Why? Cos i didn't put the names of some managers into my list. Why? Cos i dun want to invite them using my aunt's name. They know me well, and i hardly speak to them when we meet as aunt will be there taking control of the whole conversation. I hate my dad! He just has to follow what other people say. It's hard to describe it here. Aunt says by right should invite who and who. He has to add, of cos have to invite. @#!!@$@ My mum already discussed the relatives list with him before and when she thought they already invited everybody, but someone has to add more guests. So she was left debating to herself whether to invite or not cos some people dun have transports to attend. At first during the discussion between mum & dad, dad already agreed no need to invite so and so. But after someone said have to, he had to add, yeah of cos has to invite & cannot skip, in front of my mum!!! Hulamak, i hate this type of conversation!!

Second event of the weekends. During tai chan day, husband-to-be was not around. I was there together with the in-laws & parents during the "negotiation" process. Mum as usual will write down everything that she's afraid would forgot. So she couldn't stop asking the details of sang jit. What to prepare and wat to return to the groom side. And just to avoid any errors during sang jit, mum asked me to confirm with husband-to-be on the day before. Manatau, future in-laws changed something in the list. What to be returned was chg to no need to return. What not to be returned was changed to be returned. Pening lar... "Pig leg wine" was not to be returned according to his mum on tai chan day, but there he was calling me to remind me that his mum says that is the most important thing to be returned on sang jit. Oranges & biscuits were to be returned according to his mum again, but now his mum said that no need to be returned on sang jit. You say i hot or not?! Some more he was there saying his mum already told my mum that. Luckily i was there during tai chan, if not my mum will be blamed. Some more i saw my mum's list, it was stated so clearly what to be returned and not. And mind them (husband-to-be & future in-laws), my da jie's sang jit & my sang jit are 2 different processes. One is married to a cantonese & another to hokkien. Of cos my mum cannot follow all. Afterall, future in-laws made her confused some more. I didn't care much. It was a good thing i asked husband-to-be to re-list when he came, so less hassle & all ended fine.

Third event. He thought after the sang jit, my parents are on their own already. 23Dec is the date my parents were confused cos future in-laws has never mentioned anything about it before. Imagine this, i called him to reconfirmed wat to do on 23Dec. He asked me to read ourselves!??!?!? When i asked him to explain in details wat to do since we do not know what is the process....he acted like want to talk dun want to talk like that. Perhaps i was diturbing his precious time with his parents last night. So i cut the phone call short. My mum is actually dependant on his mum after hearing horror stories of in-laws having law before actual wedding day. Manatau he asked us to read the list ourselves.

I hate this whole process.

Almost but to be cont

6 Dec....Penang

Almost 4days i reached PG...quite sometimes i didn't read on my soon to be "Lou Poh" blog. Believe me i trusted and loyal to you everytimes. May be i think shld be guys behave they brain just produce simple equation 1+1=2.. not a big deal.....ooopppps suck a big shout from her ph!!!!! awake me aiyo ..... i wan to go gurney liao... hehe remember the stories of moral that he ask?? hahah i guess u knw rite :p bye ...

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so anxious

Tuesday, 28Nov - 32days

Yoh, i'm so damn sleepy now. This morning got up at 6.30am cos cousin must report in school before 7am for his school camp. When i went downstairs, nobody is around but all the lights were on. Strange i tot, so i brushed my teeth and bathed. Before that saw ah kim lying on the sofa but cousin was nowhere to be seen. What the heck, so i bathed first. Cousin overslept again so ah kim had to rush him to school and came back to get ready for work. Sleepy me now trying to work but couldn't. And it's only 4.20pm (12.20am his time). Husband-to-be and i talk a lot online during weekdays but i doubt we'll be continue talking when he's back in Penang. Work piling up for him. Oh yeah, i already booked him next week to complete our assignment - rush for registration documents. Will follow my fren home to bworth tomorrow to get the car and for the pics. Then back to the house to show in-laws (if not too late) but will bring all back to penang lar :p Parents will be here this weekend. Was supposed to take the pics today but forgetful me, the shop closes every Tues. Stupid shop :p I think the reason why i couldn't get my pic until today cos i'm cursed by the salesgirls there :D

happy me

Monday, 27Nov - 33days

I got to order my notebook...finally, after 3years of waiting. My dept admin did all the ordering for me after lunch. So what i will get is n8430 (i think she ordered wrong model for me cos this is for engineer only, who cares :p ) + bag pack + security lock. Ok, so i dun get a new LCD monitor. Well well, i dun bother much. But the delivery date is after Xmas, 23 working days...iskh!! I hope i get it before i go on leave. Heard from penguin that Boo also requested for one but unsuccessful cos no valid reason. Boo was offerred a notebook once upon a time, but she stupidly refused the offer, you say got such stupid person or not. So now, she is dying to get one. I wish i could laugh at her, but as long as the notebook has not arrived, the risk of losing the notebook to other people is still there. Too bad, it's a competitive world...notebook up for grab. So sampat.

Happy Thanksgiving :)

I have a good news, so 100% good news but still it's a good news to us. I finally gathered enough courage to call again after 4hours. Joyce answered my phone finally. The workers are rushing to complete our albums by end of today- 80% will complete. But if not then will have to drag until tomorrow and call me again. Yeah, you're so rite, i have to call them. I'm so glad now, finally i get to see my albums :)

Happy holidays for husband-to-be in US. He will be starting his journey to his childhood dream place (i think) in a couple of hours. How i wish i was there too. No worries lar, i have to keep my name "clean" among my relatives, so have to forgo the offer to fly over to visit him there. RM8K just flew away. Anyway, i would really want to go for a honeymoon (be it near or far) right after our wedding but this will also depend on his schedule. Work = money.

Enjoy yourself and take more pics, yah. Should i say thank ang kong i met you? It's Thanksgiving wat :p

wake up call

Thursday, 23Nov - 37days

One month since we last saw our photos frm this bridal shop. So i decided to wake them up today.

Peegy: Hello, CB, good morning, how are you?
Me: Hello, Peggy?
Peggy: Photos are not ready (she recognised my voice, good)
Me: What? Still not ready? I want to take my 20R & cd this Friday.
Peggy: Can you call back at 10.30am? The staff are not in yet.
Me: Ok, bye
Peggy: Bye


She knew i would call them today it seems. Or i'm their only bugger? Will call again at 11am today. I want a satisfactory answer today.